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Fr. Marc Vernoy: A Crisis of Fatherhood

Vox Catholica

On August 29th, Fr. Marc Vernoy wrote an open letter to the priests and Bishops in the state of Florida. In this video Father Vernoy discusses why he wrote the letter, and explains why he believes a crisis in Fatherhood is one of the key reasons the Catholic Church and society at large is suffering so terribly today. Below is the transcript of our short interview.


I finished a letter that I sent to the Floridian priests after all the scandals, especially in the United States, regarding the abuse crisis. I finished this letter on August 29th, the Feast of the Beheading of St. John the Baptist, who offered his life for the sanctity of marriage, family, society. And the crisis is attacking the sanctity of the Church. It’s absolutely terrible.

This letter was sent… I received several answers, especially from bishops. Very positive answers. Bishops from Florida. Priests also. I had conversations on the phone. I had contact via email. I think it was quite fruitful, and I hope it helps many priests, because this letter… I had to write it. There was no option in my heart.

I think many priests today are suffering in their hearts. Bleeding. It’s bleeding. We suffer deeply for all these victims. Children, but also young adults and even adults. Victims of homosexual predators. We suffer for Holy Mother the Church. She is devastated. Her beauty, her dignity is attacked. Deeply attacked. We suffer for all you faithful priests, who are also victims of this terrible crisis. We suffer for all these many scandalized souls. Faithful, who are in doubt, or people who are on their journey to the Catholic Church, and their journey to the Mystical Body of Christ, who stopped their journey because of all these scandals. Our heart is bleeding.

It’s bleeding also because many have lost hope, because they have no more vision. Many have lost peace, because of this great confusion. We are living in evil times, and in evil times there is always a grace to take. A great grace. Our Lord Jesus Christ has prepared a great grace for all of us. Absolutely all of us. A grace of enlightenment that will guide us to holiness. But, we need to know first, we need to know the very deep reasons of all these scandals. The very deep reasons of today’s disaster. And the real cause is in the crisis of fatherhood. The vanishing of father hood. Especially since the 60s. It affected the whole society. It affected the whole Catholic Church, especially in the western world. It affected our families. It’s affecting our business. Its affecting everything. Fathers disappeared.

A lot of men, they don’t want to have any responsibility. Then, they give up their fatherhood, and giving up their fatherhood they also give up their masculinity. It’s just a consequence of not willing to be a father… of not fulfilling your own identity, your own being.

The crisis in the Church then is a crisis of fatherhood, and we know all the consequences today. We have this abuse crisis, we have this crisis of the spreading of homosexuality with is a consequence of the absence of the father. We have as a consequence also… we have lost any kind of trust, any kind of confidence. Everything is falling apart and there is no more unity in the body, because the head is not accountable.

The answer to the crisis, I gave in the letter some directions, but I think the very deep thing is really to be a father. A real father, with a fatherly heart. A paternal heart. We need to practice a loving authority. We need to give to our people, to our children the vision. The big picture that God wants us to give to all people. And this will give hope. This will give peace and joy, and the Church will recover. And we will work hard, and faithfully, and with great hope for the reformation, the needed reformation, of our church. You can still read this letter on our website: www.sspxflorida.com and also if you have any questions we are available and you can contact us via email.

Fr. John O'Connor: The Marxist Destruction of Western Civilization

Vox Catholica

In this talk, Fr. John O'Connor O.P. lays out the destruction, subversion and infiltration of Western Governments by revolutionary Marxists and communists.

Father O'Connor discusses the foundation of the Federal Reserve, the destructive power of usury, and the takeover of our government by Radical Leftists.

Father John O’Conner was a Dominican priest, born in Chicago in 1929. He studied at Notre Dame University and joined the Order of Preachers in 1949. He obtained degrees in philosophy and theology, and was ordained to the Catholic priesthood in San Francisco in 1955. He taught in Catholic colleges in Madison, Wisconsin and Austin, Texas from 1955 to 1966. He was associate pastor in New Orleans from 1966-1969, and since then, as a Dominican preacher, he has travelled over 300,000 miles over the United States and Canada giving missions and retreats to the laity.

Bishop Tissier: On Marriage and The Family - 1992

Vox Catholica

This is an INCREDIBLE and previously un-published talk of Bishop Bernard Tissier de Mallerais given in Ridgefield Connecticut on July 10, 1992 about the Christian Family and Education.

Since the family is the basic building block of society, without strong families, we will not have strong societies. 

The good Bishop speaks of the great Islamic Replacement happening in Western Countries (and many years before this became a main-stream talking point) and warns that if Christians do not have big families, we will lose our societies. 

Here are some notable quotations:

2:30 And so what the Conciliar Church no longer wants, and what the Conciliar Church has excommunicated, is not only the true bishops and the true priests, it is not only the Mass of Tradition, but it is all the bastions of the Catholic Faith.  I quote only the words of Cardinal Ratzinger… Several years ago Cardinal Ratzinger said with Hans Urs Von Balthazar, a heretical theologian, “we must say the must urgent thing today is the demolition of the bastions” he said. A cardinal. “The dismantling of the bastions”. And what are these bastions, the bastions of the catholic faith? The bastions of Catholicism? They are the Catholic Family, Catholic Schools, Catholic Churches, Catholic Mass, Catholic Catechisms, Catholic Civil Laws, Catholic Governments, and finally Catholic States. On the contrary, we are for these bastions. It is a mission of the priestly society of Saint Pius the X, to rebuild these bastions of the Catholic Faith. To rebuild these destroyed bastions of the Catholic Faith. And we have begun with the Catholic Mass and the Priesthood 22, 23 years ago in Switzerland with Archbishop LeFebvre. We have continued with our chapels, seminaries naturally, with our priories, because the priests must live a life of community… But this work would be totally useless if it is not continued with catholic families and catholic schools.

11:45 The Catholic Family is normally, if god allows it, permits it, the large family. A family with many children. Christian England, Christian France, Christian America, must not die for want of children. Must not die Islamized, oh yes. This is a great danger in France especially, and also in your country (America) to die Islamized. Because the only families with many children are Traditionalist families, and Islamic families. It is so in France. And so the Conciliar race is an endangered species. Deo Gratias, I would say. But it is dangerous, the Islamic people are very many, naturally. So only Tradition, only strong convictions are fruitful.

It is a fact that demonstrate it. Liberalism, Conciliarism, lead to sterility. They are sterile. The fruits of Vatican II, it is childless families, dead families. And especially the root of the problem is the new conception of marriage given by Vatican II. It is in Vatican II!

35:34 It is very sad to see the new type of christian family. Husband, wife, a boy and a girl. It is the typical family. A typical modern family. Television everywhere, with the advertising. A husband a wife, and a boy and a girl. It is false! Once I was driving my car and before me was another car. On the front seat was Mr. DuPont and Mrs. DuPont, you know, and on the back seat, was the dog. The model of the new Christian family. Of the Conciliar family. Mr., Mrs., and the dog. What an awful idea of marriage.

39:14 People marry, and especially in the Conciliar families, and also in the non-Catholic families, people marry and say “we will have two children, and only two children!” And if they say this, with a real will of doing so, this marriage is invalid. Invalid. They have no right to limit the number of their children. To limit so rigorously without any grave reason, makes this invalid.

40:05 …Even if we must be criticized, be mocked, be laughed at in the streets… “What is this family with 7, 10, 15 children? How ridiculous! What a scandal!” Even if we must be pointed out and called insane and mad by these grave diggers of marriage and family.

41:20 Homosexuality and Civil Unions…

48:00 With Vatican II and the [doctrine of] religious liberty; “with all false religions” said Archbishop LeFebvre, “bring with themselves immorality”. In the Islamic religion, it is well known that one husband can have up to 5 wives. It is allowed. And also, protestant denominations do not recognize the indissolubility of marriage. Many people who are our “separated brethren” say “we get married, but if it does not work, we have the possibility of divorce.” It is this saying that makes of this marriage, and invalid marriage also. Invalid. To marry with the idea of divorcing if it doesn’t work. It is invalid. So dear friends, let’s have the true idea of marriage. And let us react against these awful dangers that threaten the Christian marriage. Let us fight against these grave diggers of marriage. 

50:28 Catholic People need Catholic laws, and Catholic government. And here in America, why could that not be the case? In some states in America, there is almost a majority of Catholics. Why could it not exist a catholic state? And Catholic laws, that is laws which encourage the religion, marriage, the family, schools. Yes? We must fight for this ideal of the Catholic State. The reign of Our Lord Jesus Christ in the political life. In the social life. You must understand, our lord must not reign only in the churches and in the sacristies, no. He must reign everywhere. In society, in the politics, through our laws which correspond to the gospel. This is normal. It is our fight. Our Catholic Fight.

Courtship – Discerning through Tribulation

Allie Reis

In my last article, I mentioned a few points that will help a couple build a good foundation for marriage. And yet, no matter how strong our foundation is, we will always run into trials and tribulations. When we are in a courtship, how do we properly discern whether a person is good for us and could be “the one”, or if they may not be the person God wills for us to marry? It can be a very difficult process, but with the assistance of prayer and the advice of those around us, the journey to the sacrament of marriage can be a peaceful one. If we are willing to conform to the will of God by using tact and common sense, the road to marriage will no longer be paved with worry and anxiety. Below are a few guidelines one can follow while courting, in order to find the person who will help us one day get to Heaven.

Putting Religion First

Venerable Fulton Sheen once told us, "You will never be happy if your happiness depends on getting solely what you want.  Change the focus.  Get a new center.  Will what God wills, and your joy no man shall take from you.” If we do not put God and our salvation with our partner first in a relationship, what is the point of anything? What is the purpose of living on this earth and indulging in sinful ways, all to later perish forever? We must make sure that our first priority is taking the Catholic Faith seriously.

If there is anything to consider first, it is if our partner lives for Christ and His Church. We need to ask ourselves important questions in order to discern if this person will be beneficial to our souls. Do they inspire us to be a better person? Will they help us get to Heaven? We may not realize it now, but if we end up courting someone who is indifferent to the Faith, or even against religion, there will be more difficulties in the future. There is a principle that those who we spend time with will always influence us and help form our character. If we want to keep our Faith when married, and our spouse keeps questioning us and refusing to go to Mass, it will affect us in some way.

If the person does have the same religious beliefs as us, we need to look for necessary qualities that pertain to every good practicing Catholic. They should help you grow closer to God and sanctification, as well as treasure the Faith as much as you do. St. Bernard tells us, "Thus understanding and love, that is, the knowledge of and delight in the truth, are, as it were, the two arms of the soul, with which it embraces and comprehends with all the saints the length and breath, the height and depth, that is the eternity, the love, the goodness, and the wisdom of God." Let us then put God first and try our best to find someone who will help us grow closer to Him.

Respectful in All Things

A second point that is very important when discerning who to marry is if the person is considerate of your emotions and respectful of your wishes. Traditional Catholics can often get too scrupulous when it comes to feelings and emotions, which leads them to discredit their importance. Though it is true that feelings are fleeting, God has given them to us for many reasons. They help us persevere with a spirit of joy, discern the will of God throughout our lives based on our needs, and teach us to be considerate of other's feelings. It is essential in a marriage to build a foundation of consideration towards the other person, not because life revolves around emotions, but because we owe it to them in charity.

Our Blessed Lord had feelings just like we do, and recognized His need for an angel to be by His side in His agony in the garden. Questions need to be discussed such as: Does this person care when they have offended or hurt you? Do they respect your wishes to stay pure in preparation for marriage? Of course, there will be times where one person will upset the other, or a disagreement will occur, but this is inevitable in our fallen state. Nonetheless, common sense and tact must be employed. God will always bring greater good out of such suffering, as St. Ignatius of Loyola shows us: "If God gives you an abundant harvest of trials, it is a sign of great holiness which He desires you to attain. Do you want to become a great saint? Ask God to send you many sufferings. The flame of Divine Love never rises higher than when fed with the wood of the Cross, which the infinite charity of the Savior used to finish His sacrifice. All the pleasures of the world are nothing compared with the sweetness found in the gall and vinegar offered to Jesus Christ. That is, hard and painful things endured for Jesus Christ and with Jesus Christ." Pray for the grace to find someone who will care for you, just as Our Blessed Lord cares for you always.

Goals for the Future

A final important point we need to consider when looking for a spouse is if their goals for the future are beneficial ones and complement our own. "Future goals" is a very large topic, but there are some basics for which we must look. When a courtship has been established, the picture of the future should be discussed between the two. For example, both parties should be open to as many children as God wills, not fixing a number and opening the door for sins of contraceptives and the like. They need to agree on where they will live, and if there is going to be enough income to cover everything as time goes on. All the different aspects of marriage in the practical sense must be taken into consideration, in order not to be rash and end up in a tricky situation. There is no need necessarily for a lengthy courtship (St. Alphonsus Liguori said one year maximum), but a courtship with the proper goals is essential. In preparation for marriage, prayers should be said for all of these intentions in order to have a happy life with the one you love.

Let us pray to God for guidance and inspiration in discerning who our future spouse will be, since if we follow His will He will never fail to provide for us in everything we need. And in praying to God, may we always pray through Our Lady who will never leave our side.

"In dangers, in doubts, in difficulties, think of Mary, call upon Mary. Let not Her name depart from your lips, never suffer it to leave your heart. And that you may obtain the assistance of Her prayer, neglect not to walk in Her footsteps. With Her for guide, you shall never go astray; while invoking Her, you shall never lose heart; so long as She is in your mind, you are safe from deception; while She holds your hand, you cannot fall, under Her protection you have nothing to fear; if She walks before you, you shall not grow weary; if She shows you favor, you shall reach the goal." (St. Bernard of Clairvaux).

Courtship: The Importance of Sacred Kindness

Allie Reis

Courtship is a very important subject for young Catholics, especially in the times in which we live. In a world where dating is “just for fun,” the idea of a serious courtship can seem confusing to us. Thus, we offer a series of articles on courtship, since it is such a vast subject to cover. It is also one that can be greatly misunderstood. On the one hand, we have young people being influenced by the world to date with a shallow attitude; on the other hand, we have the older generations not always taking seriously those in a courtship because of all the worldliness they see around them. But before going into different important aspects that should be kept in mind, what is a proper courtship?

According to traditional Church teaching, the best kind of courtship is when two Catholics, who are both of the age to get married, spend time together in a good and wholesome way in order to develop a strong relationship, and later to marry and have children for the greater glory of God and the salvation of their souls. It is a beautiful union that will strengthen the sanctity of the couple, and later on sanctify the children they raise together. It may seem to the young couple who hears this that this is a far too serious definition, and that they are not ready for such a commitment. But think of it this way: If we are not courting for marriage, we are setting ourselves up for sin and heartbreak. The world romanticizes dating in such a way that it catches our eye, and we forget the emptiness of it all. Let us then begin with a few reminders that will help us if we are in a courtship, and put our minds at peace.

The Importance of Taking Courtship Seriously

Too many times, I’ve seen a young couple courting and those around them seem not to take their relationship seriously. They’re young, they have young love, and the realities of life will hit them one day. If we are going to encourage the youth to have a fruitful courtship, this is not the way. Perhaps the couple enjoys laughing together and having good times. We should encourage prayer and good works, but also the lightheartedness that comes with the beginning stages of a relationship. For those courting, never lose that balance of spirituality and joy. On one side, you can forget the spiritual aspects of the relationship, and on the other you can get too caught up in worries and scrupulosity. Adulthood is not about being cold and overly serious, but rather growing in the spiritual life with joy and practicing virtue in our daily lives. If we are preparing for marriage, we must be mature in our decisions, but also be lighthearted and happy with those around us.

In The Imitation of Christ, Thomas à Kempis tells us, “Nothing is sweeter than love, nothing stronger or higher or wider; nothing is more pleasant, nothing fuller, and nothing better in Heaven or on earth, for love is born of God and cannot rest except in God, Who is above all created things.” God created us to love Him directly, and also to love those around us for His sake. This is a very serious thing, but just because love is serious does not mean it has to be unfeeling. We should then pray to have this balance, in order to grow with the other person and give the good example all around us of a Catholic relationship. When you are young, people might not always take you seriously, but use these opportunities to grow in humility, maturity, and always with a peaceful and childlike disposition. There is a reason Our Blessed Lord loved the children He came across so much when He was on earth. He loves especially to be honored with simplicity, sincerity, and always with a smile.

Genuine Kindness and Wonder

In order for a courtship to be fruitful, we must realize what the vocation to marriage means for us. When we read up on vocations, we find material on nuns being brides of Christ, and priests having the sacred place of offering to God Himself the same Sacrifice He offered on earth, but material on marriage is oftentimes lacking. If we truly think about it, God has called us to offer everything we are to another person, in order to serve Him and fulfill His holy will. This is an incredible calling, since it involves true self-sacrifice. We must learn and pray for the grace to see God in the eyes of the one we love, which will help us treat the other with a sacred kindness and charity in everything we do. When we see Our Blessed Lord’s sacred Eyes in those of the one we hope to marry, it helps us to be more charitable, more patient, and teaches us how holy the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony really is. In the period of courtship, growth in all these virtues is especially important since they will be used regularly throughout married life, which will no doubt be difficult at times. However, if a relationship has grown under the guidance of God, it will be far easier and give everything a joyful light. If trials come our way, we can look into the eyes of our beloved and offer it all up for their benefit. Sorrow is then turned to joy, and God can actively make every trouble a greater good.

Seek Wise Counsel

One final point for this introductory article on courtship is that we should trust in the advice of others. For generations, couples have been getting together and learning all the ins and outs of a holy courtship and marriage. Young people can often struggle with listening and asking for advice, but this does not always have to be difficult. We should be open to learning from the older couples we know and trust, and ask them for advice and counsel. They have experienced the fullness of life, and though we want to be mature and independent, their help will always benefit us. In asking for help, we grow in humility as well as wisdom for the future. If we find that those around us are not giving holy or beneficial advice, we must seek out those couples who lift us up and challenge us to pursue holiness in our courtship.

May God watch over all those preparing for the Sacrament of Marriage, so that they can grow in sanctity and peace. God always wills true peace for our souls, especially when preparing for such a holy union. St. Catherine of Sienna is a great model to follow as she understood so well the sanctity of charity: “Charity is the sweet and holy bond which links the soul with its Creator: it binds God with man and man with God.”

May all the Saints and Angels watch over the young, for they are extremely loved in the eyes of God, and can do great things for the Church.

Pope Francis Releases Statement On Amoris Laetitia- Affirms "Primacy of Conscience"

James Austin

Here we go again.

Earlier today, Pope Francis (who stands accused of allowing heresy to spread within the Church) released a video statement to a meeting organized by the Italian Bishops Conference (CEI) on Amoris Laetitia. Yahoo! News said in an article today, that Pope Francis "reaffirmed the 'primacy' of using one's conscience to navigate tough moral questions."

According to Yahoo, "Francis reaffirmed the centrality of 'The Joy of Love' [Amoris Laetitia] as the Church's guide to Catholic couples today trying to navigate the ups and downs of complicated family situations."

The Pope's address smacks of phenomenology, relativism, situational ethics and interior revelation, instead of the defined doctrines, dogmas and traditional practices of Holy Mother Church. In the 4th paragraph the Pope states "Let the Church in Italy help to assimilate and develop Amoris Laetitia’s content and style," giving a nod to Collegiality run rampant in the post-Vatican II Church. One would think that the Pope's teachings wouldn't need to be "assimilated" into the pastoral practice of the Church, but would blend seamlessly with the teaching and practice of the church passed down through the ages.

This document basically stands as an insult to faithful Catholics everywhere, and only continues to muddy the already murky waters for those unaware of the Modernist revolution within the Church. Instead of bringing the clarity and unity that the clergy and the faithful need so desperately in this time of crisis, this letter only further divides the Church.

You can read the full text in its entirety below. Translation courtesy of Radio Vatican.


Dear brothers and sisters, good morning!

I cordially greet all of you who attend the third International Symposium on the Apostolic Exhortation, Amoris Laetitia, convened by the Office for Pastoral Care of the Family of the Italian Bishops’ Conference.

The theme you have proposed: The Gospel of Love between Conscience and Norm, is of great importance, and can illuminate the path that the Churches in Italy are taking, in order to respond to the desire for family that emerges in the soul of the young generations. Love between a man and a woman is obviously among the most generative human experiences; it is the leaven of a culture of  encounter, and introduces to the present world an injection of sociality. Indeed “the good of the family is decisive for the future of the world and of the Church. (Amoris laetitia, 31)” The family born of marriage creates fruitful bonds, which reveal themselves to be the most effective antidote against the individualism that currently runs rampant; however, along the journey of marital love and family life there are situations that require arduous choices, which must be made with rectitude. In the domestic reality, sometimes there are concrete knots to be addressed with prudent conscience on the part of each. It is important that spouses, parents, be not left alone, but accompanied in their commitment to applying the Gospel to the concreteness of life. On the other hand, we know well that “we are called to form consciences, not to pretend to substitute them. (Ibid., 37)”

The contemporary world risks confusing the primacy of conscience, which is always to be respected, with the exclusive autonomy of the individual with respect to the relations that he entertains in life.

As I said recently to the Pontifical Academy for Life, “There are those who even speak of ego-latry, that is, of a true worship of the ego, on whose altar is sacrificed everything, including the dearest affections. This perspective is not harmless: it molds a subject that looks constantly in the mirror, until it becomes incapable of turning its eyes to others and the world. The spread of this attitude has most serious consequences for all the affections and ties of life. (5 Oct., 2017)” This is a “pollution” that corrodes souls and confounds minds and hearts, producing false illusions.

Romano Guardini, in a text on the subject of conscience, indicates the way to the search for the true good. He writes: “From this imprisonment in myself I am free only if I find a point, which is not my ego: a height higher than myself; something solid and working in my interior – and behold! Here we are come to the core [...] that is, to religious reality. That good [...] is something alive. [...] It is the fullness of worth, which belongs to the selfsame living God. (La coscienza, Brescia 1933, 32-33)”

In the very depths of each one of us there is a place wherein the Mystery reveals itself, and illuminates the person, making the person the protagonist of his story. Conscience, as the II Vatican Council recalls, is this, “most secret core and sanctuary of a man. There he is alone with God, Whose voice echoes in his depths. (GS 16)” To the Christian falls the task of being vigilant, so that in this sort of tabernacle is no want of divine grace, which illuminates and strengthens married love and parental mission. Grace fills the amphorae of human hearts with an extraordinary capacity for gift, renewing for the families of today the miracle of the wedding feast at Cana.

Commenting on that Gospel episode, I have been able to say that, “By transforming into wine the water of the jars used ‘for the Jewish rites of purification’ (Jn 2:6), Jesus preforms an eloquent sign: he transforms the Law of Moses into the Gospel, bearer of joy. (Gen. Audience, June 8, 2016)” Jesus points in particular to the medicine of mercy, which cures the hardness of the heart, restoring the relationship between husband and wife, and between parents and children.

Dear Brothers and Sisters, I wish all the best for your work in this Symposium. Let the Church in Italy help to assimilate and develop Amoris laetitia’s content and style; may she contribute to the formation of family group animators in parishes, associations, and movements; may she support the journey of so many families, helping them to live the joy of the Gospel, and to be active cells in the community. I bless you, and I ask you, please, to pray for me.